In American slang, we often use baseball metaphors for sex. They are basically a euphemism for the degree of physical intimacy in a sexual encounter or relationship. In that spirit, what are the basis in dating? What is the second base in dating? As you will see later on, the second base is a bit complicated to explain. Some view it in one way, and others in another.
You can find these baseball metaphors in various popular American culture examples. For example, the song Paradise by the Dashboard Light by Meat Loaf describes a young couple making out with a voice-over-commentary of a portion of a baseball game. You can also find a similar example in Zanzibar, a song by Billy Joel, in which he compares himself to Peter Rose.
In that song, Billy even says, “Me, I’m trying just to get to second base and I’d steal it if she only gave the sign”.
With that in mind, let’s try and explain the sexual bases in dating.
Explaining The Basis In Relationship
Will you hit a home run? Or will you strike out? Well, do not worry, if you cannot understand those terms, we have an explanation for you. It is helpful to know what are the bases in relationships. This way, you can understand the communication between friends.
While there is no official definition of first base, 2nd base, or third base, there is a general understanding of what do they mean. Here is a quick summary:
- First base = kissing, mostly French kissing or making out
- Second base = petting above the waist, fondling of the breasts, chests, nipples
- Third base = petting or orally stimulating below the waist, including touching, feeling, and fondling of the vagina, penis, testicles, and clitoris
- Fourth base or home base = sexual intercourse
Fun fact: these can vary between people. So do not be afraid or embarrassed to ask friends or people what exactly when they mean when they talk about different bases in dating.
Also, you and your partner have to have mutual consent about the basis. You should ask for consent before, during, and after any sexual activity. This helps partners ensure they express what they want.
Understanding Second Base
Let’s get more into what is second base in dating. This base gets a bit more serious physically. We have to note that there is a general consensus about 1st base and 4th base. But the second and the third one are somewhat of a grey area.
Generally speaking, we consider intimate touching second base. And it has more to do with the area where the touching happens. The second base is around the waist and above. That includes breasts and nipples. Of course, the second base is below clothing.
We also call this base the sensual touch. This is when the mood starts and the chemistry starts to flow. At this point, hands tend to start wandering. You get a bit handsy. Innocent kissing turns into something raunchier and R-rated. A simple movement of hands can do so much more.
When we were little, we called awkward boob grab and some butt cheek squeezes second base. But that is not the reality.
Sensual touch, or second base, adds much to the sexual intercourse experience. But only when done properly and right. The end goal of this base is not a finite climax. This base serves as means to get to the next level, keeping the passion flowing the whole time. You up the intention and passion with some sensual touching during kissing.
Where you put your hands during kissing can change the whole mood of the experience. And if you head straight for sex, you might miss on the best bits of the experience. The buildup makes the end goal or the home run better.
Besides the obvious chest, breasts, and nipples, sensual touch can help you up the passion and sexiness by touching or kissing the neck, mouth, lips, ears, and other erogenous zones.
Different Explanation Of Second Base
As we said before, not all people agree on the second and third base in dating. With that in mind, the difference comes from another baseball metaphor. There is a difference between major and minor league baseball. And in the same spirit, there is a difference in how you touch your partner depending on your age.
For a teenager, the second base is touching above the waist. But when you get to the major league, first base includes a hot makeup session and some touching below clothing above the waist.
Then, the second base in the major league involves touching down low, while the 3rd base is oral sex. The reason for this explanation of bases in dating is some people consider oral sex should get its own base.
Of course, the fourth base or home base remains the same. That is and always will be sexual intercourse. Hopefully, now you understand what is second base in dating.