How to tell if your partner is cheating? Well, it is not an easy task. But you are not the only one. According to one study in the UK, one-fifth of adults have had an affair at some point in their lives. Another study revealed that common alibis are “going to the gym”, “working late”, and so on. And they apply to both men and women. Today, we will talk about men, and signs he’s cheating.
Cheating is something that affects many of us. Almost every one of us has a story about infidelity. Maybe you have cheated, your partner has cheated, or you have a friend who has gone through an affair.
Yes, couples hit a rough patch every now and then. And many go the wrong route, which is having an affair instead of talking and solving things out. With that in mind, today we will look at some infidelity signs.
Listen To Your Intuition
For women, intuition is one of the biggest weapons they have. When you suspect something is up, usually the first sign is your gut feeling starts working. Yes, you might be wrong. But do not ignore your hunch.
He Is Overly Complimentary
Does your guy suddenly start giving you compliment after compliment? Lots of compliments out of nowhere is a common sign of cheating. Yes, the extra praise and attention might make you feel incredible and wanted. But those also raise a red flag.
Why he is somehow inclined to shower you with compliments? Has something changed in your relationship? Was he always so flattering and appreciative of everything you do?
Usually, whenever something feels over the top, there is a dirty little secret and reason behind it.
Changes His Predictable Everyday Behavior
If you and your boyfriend have been dating for a while, you know his typical behavior. You know what he does daily and why he does it. And if he strays from his predictable behavior, something is wrong.
For example, grabbing his phone and going out to talk.
Unpredictable Mood Swings
We are not here to say that mood swings are exclusive to women. But men are usually the rock in the romantic relationship. They are stable. But out of nowhere, he starts having these mood swings. He starts arguing and being angry in an instant. Or sometimes he becomes overly nice.
Friends Notice Changes
You can always listen to your intuition or your friends. These two will rarely betray you. Sometimes, you might not notice little signs and red flags because you are overly in love. But your friend will notice.
So, when your friends start asking if everything is fine in your love relationship, think about it for a moment.
He Is More Distant
When your male partner acts distant, it is a powerful indicator he is cheating. He pulls away from your life and wants to find more time for himself (with his love affair). Has he stopped paying attention to you? Does he ignore you? Do you feel he is away with his thoughts? Well, those are all red flags you should not ignore.
He Doesn’t Invite You To Work Events Anymore
There was a time when he invited you to every single work event. He wanted you to come to the office Christmas party. He wanted you to come for a drink with colleagues. But now, your cheating boyfriend just doesn’t want you near anymore.
So, if the work invites start drying up, it might be because he is romantically involved with someone from the office.
Gets Irritated Quickly
You ask him a question, just a simple one, like what he’s been up to, and he starts acting defensive and jumpy. Red flag there darling. Yes, there is a small possibility that he is planning a surprise holiday or romantic break. Maybe he just doesn’t want you to ruin the surprise.
But the guilty reason is another story. He is worried you check on him and will find out about his infidelity.
Accuses You Of Cheating
Whenever a man cheats on you, he might try to reverse the guilt. He accuses you of cheating. It might come as a shock to you. But it is common for a cheater to suspect his partner of cheating. There is a simple explanation.
Your cheating man thinks that if he gets away with having an affair so easily, you are probably a cheater as well.
Lies To You
It is one of the most quintessential qualities of a man having an emotional affair. He lies to his female partner over and over again. When men start lying to their girlfriend, they are deep in another romantic relationship.
Cheating requires a lot of covering tracks. So, he lies to cover all his tracks. And he starts with small things. Like who he is with for a lunch break, what he spends his money on, and so on. But lies quickly become bigger.
He Is A Changed Man
This is one of the physical signs of cheating. Suddenly, he listens to new music, bought new clothes, and even has a new aftershave? He might be trying to update his looks. But there is also the possibility he wants to look hotter and sexier for his new woman.
He Wants His Privacy
It is a clear sign of a man cheating on his girl. He suddenly has a newfound need for privacy. He takes his calls in the other room. He clears his browser history daily. And he is deleting his messages. Well, that is covering of tracks.
Improved Sexual Performance
When your man’s sexual activity improves, and you have better sexual intercourse, it means he has been practicing. But with another woman that satisfies his sexual desire. When your husband or boyfriend starts doing something new and amazing in bed, he learned it either from watching porn or from sleeping with another woman.
Body Language Signs He’s Cheating
You can easily notice changes in his body language. One or two of these signs alone is not definite proof your guy is lying to you. But more than that, and you have a cheating husband.
- Stress signals like freezing up or quickly fleeing the room
- Sweating is a common sign of stress
- Dilated pupils? Too much eye contact? Those are signs of lying
- Does his mouth seem suddenly very dry?
- Does his voice go up in pitch?
- Watch out for fidgeting, is a sign of being uncomfortable
- The four specific gestures that indicate lying include hand touching, face touching, leaning away, and crossing arms
Why Do People Cheat In A Relationship?
You might be wondering why does your man cheats when you have a committed relationship? Well, that might not be the case in his eyes. There are many reasons for cheating according to men, including sexless marriage, boredom, and so on. Let’s take a look at some of the common reasons for cheating.
- Addiction to alcohol can reduce inhibitions, and make a person cross lines that he wouldn’t if sober
- Intimacy disorders and poor self-esteem are two reasons why people might cheat
- Insecurity raises the risk of an affair, and men use it as a way to prove their worthiness
- Childhood trauma, including physical, sexual, or emotional abuse and neglect
- Exposure to infidelity in childhood
- Sex addiction, especially when he doesn’t get it in the marriage or relationship
- Unhappiness and dissatisfaction, either emotionally or sexually
- Feeling unappreciated and undervalued, especially when the woman works more
- Lack of commitment to the relationship
- Boredom, looking for the thrill of the chase and the excitement of new love
- Body image and aging, usually among middle-aged men who have an affair with younger women
- Revenge, to get back at the cheating partner